Saturday, September 13, 2008

the window to the soul

I don't always understand my children. Does anyone, really? But sometimes I really wish that I could see inside their lovely, complex minds and figure out who they really are. This is one of the most interesting, complex, creative, loving, stubborn, thoughtful, wise little souls I've ever known. And I just don't get her.
Is it just me, or do we sort of grow away from our children as they grow older. It's very bittersweet. I felt like I knew her every thought and need as an infant, and then, as she grew older and more independent, I often feel like I'm living with a stranger.
Any parent advice on this situation would be most welcome on this soft, sad, rainy day.


Patti said...

there is nothing to do but to let her grow up. it's awful on our mommy hearts but it's what we do. not understanding or own children comes as such a surprise. we gave birth to them, and feel we should know them completely because they were so completely ours at one point. but they have things to do, places to be, discoveries that have nothing to do with us. the nerve!

all i can tell you is that even though you don't understand her, you do love her. even if you don't see the point. even if you don't think what you are doing is good enough. even on the most blue days. and that love will be enough.

Iguana Banana said...

Thank you, Patti.
That's exactly what I needed to hear!
It is bittersweet, this growing-up process. I almost feel angry - how dare she grow up and have her own (brilliant!) thoughts and ideas!? And yes, I love her so very much. I will hang onto that.

Blue Lightning said...

no advice. just love for you, mama. i'll be ringing you for the advice shortly! :) love you!

Rose said...

Late to the comments, but I totally agree with Patti. It's tough and wonderful and it'll always be that way. Congrats to the Funny Man!!